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Setting Healthy Boundaries


The sun's warmth envelops the Lower Mainland, ushering in a promising start to a long weekend. As the world outside beckons with opportunities for leisure and relaxation, many of us are tempted to indulge in the simple pleasures we often sacrifice in the rush of everyday life.


Whether it's the lure of a few extra hours of sleep, the thrill of a fishing trip, or the quiet solace of a good book in a tranquil setting, these moments of respite are not just desirable but essential for our well-being.


However, amidst these tempting prospects lies a challenge familiar to many: the struggle to set boundaries. In a culture that often glorifies busyness and self-sacrifice, asserting our need for personal time can feel like a daunting task. Yet, setting boundaries is not just a luxury; it's a necessity. It's about recognizing our limits, valuing our time, and prioritizing our well-being.


But how do we set boundaries, especially if we've never done it before? The first step is to pause. When someone requests our time or attention at a time when we've planned for ourselves, it's okay to take a moment before responding. This pause allows us to gather our thoughts and formulate a respectful yet firm response.


For me, this pause was a pivotal step in learning to set boundaries. In the past, I would often struggle to come up with a response that others would respect, ultimately leading me to abandon my plans. However, by taking a moment to gather my thoughts, I was able to respond with confidence, saying, "Thank you, but I have plans."


One of the key aspects of setting boundaries is understanding that you don't owe anyone an explanation for how you choose to spend your time. Whether your plans involve productivity or simply rest and relaxation, they are valid and worthy of respect.


In setting boundaries, it's also important to identify areas where you'd like to improve. Perhaps you struggle to say no to certain people or find it challenging to prioritize your needs over others'. By recognizing these areas, you can start to work towards setting clearer boundaries that align with your values and well-being.


Setting boundaries is not just about saying no; it's about saying yes to yourself. It's about honoring your time, energy, and well-being. So, the next time you find yourself torn between your plans and someone else's needs, remember that it's okay to pause, gather your thoughts, and assert your boundaries. Your time is precious, and setting boundaries is a powerful way to reclaim it.




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